Let’s Talk: Disconnected

Ha! I know, perfect picture 🙂 I found it on Pinterest haha.
I love this little series I have started; one of my best friends told me that writing is a good way to help yourself and I have come to absolutely love it! Thanks Ari 🙂

Well, I wanted to write about this feeling. Yesterday I was feeling a little weird because I miss that time in my life when everyone was friends with everyone and everyone hung out together. all the time. I miss it. I miss hanging out at home with my besties and then partying with them. I guess this is called, growing up? Maybe?
I like it, don’t get me wrong. I like the feeling of working hard and learning things day in and day out but we all went into different industries, we all went to lead different lives and its a little hard to keep up. Some of us are working, others are working and going to school so it is just plain difficult to plan something we can all commit to.

Anyway, yesterday I decided to cancel everything from my “after-work” agenda and I just sat in my sisters’ room and watched Grey’s Anatomy while she was doing homework. I didn’t see my friends but I texted with 2 of them and it felt great. It reminded me that friendship is not in the quantity but in the quality. So… you might not be interested at all in my personal life and I get that but, if you take away anything from this post is that: In all aspects of life, quality exceeds quantity. It’s very simple after all. 

Hope you enjoy these posts, have a great day!
Xo,
Belen

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XOXOXOXO


Happy Friday?

Wow! that wast fast! I didn’t realize what day it was until today at work when phones started going crazy and that only means clients want their stuff! I thought I had more days left this week to post about my little treasure (my “True Love” book) but I guess not, so here it is.
Instead of going chapter by chapter, i’m just going to write about things that pop up when I flip through the pages.
I had put a little star next to do this next sentence which means it caught my attention when I first read the book so… of course I HAVE to share it 🙂

We must bring about a revolution in our way of living our everyday lives, because our happiness, our lives, are within ourselves. 

Cannot express how many times I have not followed this. For a long time I would make my happiness depend on factors I couldn’t control; unintentionally, but that’s the way my brain worked. Don’t do this. Two years ago, a friend of mine told me: “The best invested time will be the time you invest in yourself”, at the time I didn’t pay much attention but today, I couldn’t be more grateful for those words. It is hard to go on when your heart hurts, we have all been there, we are all human but the important thing is to learn to let go, to let your feelings sink in and just let go. It’s funny how everything relates, today in my class my professor said :”Effective managers know how to accept and are great at letting go.” Letting go often has a negative connotation but it shouldn’t, not when your feelings are involved. Everything in this life is too short to not be happy. Go after your happy place, find it. It all depends on you. 

Not gonna lie… he makes me pretty happy. 
Feliz Viernes?!

Wow! Eso paso demasiado rapido. No me di cuenta que ya iba a ser Viernes hasta que hoy en la oficina el telefono no dejaba de sonar… eso solo significa que los clientes quieren sus cosas rapido! Pense que tenia mas dias para escribir sobre mi libro pero me di cuenta que no asi que aqui va! En vez de ir capitulo por capitulo voy a escribir sobre cualquier cosa que llame mi atencion cuando paso las paginas. 
Puse una mini estrella alado de la siguiente oracion y solo hago eso cuando algo me llama la atencion entonces traducida al espanol es…

Debemos comenzar una revolucion en nuestra manera de vivir el dia a dia, porque nuestra felicidad, nuestras vidas, estan dentro de nosotros. 

No puedo contar las veces que no he seguido estas palabras. Por mucho tiempo dejaba que mi felicidad dependa de cosas que estaban fuera de mi control; lo hacia sin intencion pero asi es como funcionaba mi cabeza. No hagas eso. Hace como dos anios, un amigo me dijo esto: ” El tiempo mejor invertido es el tiempo invertido en ti mismo.” En el momento no lo tome muy enserio pero ahora estoy mas que agradecida por esas palabras. Es dificil seguir adelante cuando el corazon nos duele, todos hemos estado ahi por a o b motivo, todos somos humanos pero lo mas importante es saber dejar ir lo malo, sentir y aceptar los sentimientos y despues solo dejar todo ir. Es chistoso como todo se relaciona pero hoy en mi clase mi profesora dijo ” Los mejor managers son los que aceptan y los que saben dejar ir.” La mayoria de veces la frase “dejar ir” tiene una mala interpretacion, pero no deberia de ser asi, no cuando se trata de nuestros sentimientos. 
Todo en esta vida es demasiado corto para no ser feliz. No te canses de buscar to lugar feliz. Encuentralo. Todo esta en nuestras manos. 

Xo, 
Belen 

Women at Work

“Why 26% of U.S women still choose not to work” by Annalyn Kurtz

Some of you might know that I am currently in school trying to get my MBA… as a result, I end up reading Business current events almost everyday. Here is the result:

This article was chosen out of the curiosity that sparked to me by the title. It is astonishing to me that women are still choosing not to work because I work in the fashion industry and all I see is women; all day, everyday. It would have made more sense if the article’s title were “ Why 26% of U.S women still can’t find a job” but nonetheless, apparently this is reality and so we will discuss it.

According to Blau and Kahn, two economists from Cornell University, women in the United States are choosing not to work due to the lack of family oriented labor laws. In the United States, it is legal for women to be on maternal leave for 12 weeks; it does not sound terrible until you hear this next part; these 12 weeks you get to spend with your cute little child are unpaid. Some decades ago, when women were first accepted into the work force, thousands of women joined the corporate world; in 1993, 74% of women in the United States were either employed or looking for a job (Kurtz 2013). That number has not increased since then, and unpaid maternity leave might be the answer. The article also discusses the labor laws in Sweden, which are totally different than in the United States. In Sweden, the employer has the legal obligation to hold the job of either the father or the mother for a little over a year while still paying them their salary (Kurtz 2013). 

This article relates to Organizational Behavior because in the end, it is all about motivation. Every one in this world is different and different things motivate different people but family seems to be one of the most important things in life throughout the different cultures, countries, languages and religions. Maslow’s theory of motivation indicates that human needs come in a form of hierarchy. Basics needs are to be fulfilled first before other things come into consideration. It is understood that love is a basic need and with love comes family as with family comes love. We live in a world where competitiveness is incredibly high and this might be the real reason why 74% of women do work. The women that have the option to either work or not work are choosing the latter because of labor laws as well as high costs of child care and stagnant wages.

This article taught me that although it might look like women are “taking over” the corporate world, there is still a little hesitation due to motivating factors. It is natural for a woman to want to nurse her child but when labor laws are too restrictive, they might opt for being a stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing their careers which is concerning due to all the talent and intelligence that we might never know of.

If you were so fortunate to not have to work, would you choose to be a career lady or a stay-at-home mommy? 

Xo, 
B.B


What Is Life?

I normally don’t do blogposts like the one I’m about to do because I have this feeling that everything I post about has to be Fashion/Style related because it is Androbel’s blog but the truth is it’s my account so I can really post anything that interests me, which is awesome so I’m going to do that :).
This past Friday I was at the beach with a special friend and out of nowhere we started talking about life. Yes, life… as cliche as this topic is, it is a great topic because you can never really come up with a clear answer (at least this is what happens to me). When I was in school I had this professor that said “Life is factually simple and analytically complex” which really means, life is as difficult as you make it. Although I do believe in this, as I grow and start to realize more things about life and the world, it is hard to sometimes keep life simple.
Is the world a beautiful place? yes, there are tons of pretty places to see.
Is family and friends one of the best things in life? yes! friends that you can count as family is the best feeling ever.
Is having a job/going to school satisfying? Yes, you go, you listen, you read, you learn, you grow.
Is love real? Of course! Love love love as much as you can.
There are all these wonderful things surrounding us, yet sometimes we can’t help feeling down… feeling like we are not good enough… like we don’t know what we want to… like we don’t know where we are going. Are we going to be successful? are we going to have a nice house? are we going to be able to afford fancy restaurants? skiing trips? a luxury car? These are all questions that pop into our head as we start to grow older and it is completely normal. we are anxious.
On Friday all I kept saying was that in life you have to work hard for what you want… but what does that mean? I also said that sometimes people think about things the wrong way; instead of thinking “I want to be able to watch the sunset from my house every night” they think “I need to make lots of money so that I can buy a house infront of the beach” and I believe that is why people feel down, sad with their lives. Why do you have to make lots of money to buy a house infront of the beach? you can buy a small apartment and walk 10 min to beach every night to watch the sunset with a beer in hand. These thoughts start when we are in our 20s and it is the entire reason why there are so many broken homes, broken friendships, broken hearts… people get so, so, so caught up in the “money making” that they forget why do they what they do. Yes, it’s true, some people are not lucky enough to have the job of their dreams so it is just a job not a passion but that is what life is about… making sacrifices. Maybe the job you have now is not ideal, maybe you hate it, but that is what separates the good from the great. You suck it up, you work day shifts, night shifts, two jobs, whatever it takes, you work hard, you give it your best and you will see that before you know it you will be on your next step… you might get promoted, or you might gain experience and be suitable for a better job. Everyone starts from the bottom (well, maybe not everyone, but the majority does) and in order to succeed, everyone has to struggle. Without struggle, there is no long-term success.
So, there goes the other question… why does everything revolve about money? and I really don’t have a genius answer for that… it sucks, but that’s the world, it has always been like that and I don’t think it will ever change. But it is true that the richest are those that need less. So, stay humble and you will be fine. After all, it is the little things in life that means the most.
Life is great because of family, friends, jobs, schools, travel and love but the same things make life complicated. Things get in the way and they are uncontrollable. So what do we do? We sit back, relax and smile because everything always works itself out. It always does… I’ve seen it. It might take time but it will happen.
In life I have dreams, I have goals that I want to accomplish. Sometimes I feel like I can do it, sometimes I feel like it is impossible. Somedays I feel like I have my stuff figured out and that I know where I want to go and that I know where I’m going, other days I feel completely lost. It is just life, the only thing we can change is our attitude.
I spent all weekend thinking about this because I really wanted to answer the questions that I was asked on Friday. How do you know what you want to do? Are you really happy with your life? What is the most important thing to you? So here are my answers: As of now I know I want my clothing boutique but as the days go by I start thinking about other things… personal shopping, styling, closet organizing are other things I love. We grow every single day, so our interests, passions grow as well, they change. I can say that I’m happy and satisfied with my life because I have learned to accept things as they happen, experience them, take them in… if they are good they stay within me, if they are bad I let the go. For so long I kept negative things in my life because I wanted to control them and they were just bringing me down… so no more of that :). The most important thing in my life is love. love everything and anything you do.The people you choose in your life are the most important thing you will do. Choose them wisely. When you have a horrible day, take a break, do something with someone you like, someone that puts a smile on your face and everything you are working for will be worth it.  I promise.

Xo,
Belen Baquerizo

Development, Enjoyment & Fulfillment

 

Hi! 

Today is Quote Friday and I wanted to share this video from Diane Von Furstenberg because I think she is amazing and inspirational. This video contains as many quotes as you need to take a deep breath and take on this crazy world!  Here are my favorite points made by DVF: 

  • Pay Attention- It’s important, words matter. 
  • Every mistake is an experience- It’s not a mistake, it’s whatever you felt like doing at the time
  • There is no shortcut ever, for anyone. 
  • You should do what you want to do, what you are passionate about. The most important thing is to have clarity. 
  • Every woman has strength, but sometimes they are afraid of their own strength. 
  • The most important relationship in your life, is the relationship you have with yourself. 
I hope you are as inspired as I am! 

Have a Blossoming Weekend! 

Belen Baquerizo 

The Architect of Decay

“He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery.” Harold Wilson 

Today is Quote Friday!
Take a second and reflect on this quote. It’s Friday and we are all overwhelmed; maybe your work week was not what you expected, maybe it’s 5pm and you want to run home but haven’t finished your to-do list, no matter what happens… remember to not let anything beat you, you are alive so live, work and enjoy!!

Have a Blossoming Weekend!!

Androbel Family